Are You a Social Media Mongol?

I can remember when I first heard of Facebook. One of my missionary friends talked me into signing up for it as a way to keep in touch. I thought it was weird, but I created a  profile on August 7, 2007.

My first post was on my oldest son’s wall: “Hi Garrett….I like facebook better than myspace…it doesn’t have all the scary stuff.”

I’m not sure what was scary about MySpace, but there ya go.

In the 10 years I’ve been active on Facebook, I developed a love-hate relationship with it.

I love the way I can connect with friends, family, and ministry contacts. I love the way I can pray for people right there in the comments. I love getting to say Happy Birthday to a friend I barely knew in second grade.

You have to admit it…birthdays are way better with Facebook!

I hate the way I get sucked into silly, time-wasting quizzes, games, and videos. I hate it when strange men send me “Your smile lights my world” messages. And I hate it when the social media mongols take over the FB feed.

What is a social media mongol, you ask? I’m not talking mongrel, which is a fancy name for a mutt dog. And I’m not talking about a mogul, which is a successful entrepreneur running things like a boss.

Let’s look at who the Mongols were.

“The Mongols had a mission concentrated in one word – destruction. Their take-no-prisoners mentality led them to conquer more of the world than any other empire in history. And it wasn’t just that they could ride horses. It was that they could snipe you through the heart with an arrow while riding their horses” (

Social media mongols have a mission, too. To prove their point to the death. It’s not just that they can multi-task on their smartphones. It’s that they can slash folks through the heart with their words while multi-tasking on their smartphones.

Politics, social justice, religion, sports. There’s always something bringing out folks’ inner mongol.

I’m tired of it. Full-blown weary.

There’s a difference between a mongol post and an opinion post.

Opinion posts have a civil tone. Mongol posts are hostile.

Opinion posts promote healthy discussion. Mongol posts promote bickering.

Opinion posts inspire others to think. Mongol posts instigate outrage.

I have a wide variety of Facebook friends. Christians and non-Christians. Black and White. American and Abroad. Scholars and High School Dropouts. I love them all, and they love me.

Some of the most mongol-ish posts come from Christians. This should not be! There’s no excuse for a follower of Jesus Christ to resort to name-calling and out-of-control ranting.

I find the anonymity of social media gives us a level of bravado we wouldn’t have in person. If someone in our presence did something we didn’t like or didn’t agree with, I highly doubt we’d jump up and call them ingrates or idiots. Yet folks do it all the time on Facebook both in their original posts and in their responses to the posts of others.

We need to do better, Jesus people. The world is watching.

We can stand for God without stomping all over people.

We can state our opinions without slashing naysayers with renegade words.

We can surf social media without shipwrecking our reputations.

I don’t always get it right, but the best way I’ve found to keep my social media presence on the up-and-up is to invite Jesus into the equation.

If Jesus was sitting beside you, would you click “post?” Would you allow every hot-button issue to push your buttons? Would you share that angry post a friend of a friend worded “just right?” Would you look at Jesus and say, “They started it?”

I love how my friend Suzie Eller put it on Facebook today.

Right now it’s easy to get drawn into debate. It’s easy to jump from one argument to the next.

What did Jesus do? He kept going. He kept praying. He kept teaching. He kept encouraging. He didn’t place his energies or time into debates to nowhere, but intentionally continued to change the world around Him.

As followers of Jesus Christ, we don’t have time to argue and debate each and every hot topic.

If that hot topic stirs something inside of you, then do what you hope others will do. Let it begin with you.

Love tangibly. Live truth wholly. Pray fervently. Give sacrificially. Open your door to others. Share the Gospel with someone seeking hope. Listen for His voice over the rumble of divisiveness.

Ask for anointing. Hold out your hands and heart for wisdom. Pray for direction. Then live that. Keep going.

I promise that when we stop debating, we’ll find there is purpose right in front of each of us that will change the world, or at least the corner God has shown us.


These were his instructions to them: “The harvest is great, but the workers are few. So pray to the Lord who is in charge of the harvest; ask him to send more workers into his fields” (Luke 10:2 NLT).

We are God’s workers, and when we get sidetracked by arguments, we can’t be about His business. Time is short. We don’t have time to bicker, friends! We. Don’t. Have. Time.

Lord, help us. 

Help us resist the pull of proving every point. You are the point. 

May our social media posts point people to You.

May Your constant presence influence our social media presence.

May we slay our inner mongols and be people of peace and truth spoken in love.

In Jesus’s Name I pray, AMEN


When we see our sin for what it really is

After a few weeks of special church events, my pastor returned to his sermon series, “Demolishing Strongholds.” I’m so glad he did. The more I live my life and observe the state of this world (and the church), I’m convinced that this topic is something all churches should address.

We’re in trouble. We live in a world where sin is disguised as personal preference. God’s Word grows more politically incorrect by the day, and living according to the Word marks a person as intolerant.

It’s more important than ever for Believers to live out our faith in word and deed. We can’t point out the sins of the world while still wallowing in our own sin. The world sins because they don’t know Him. We are without excuse.

We have this beautiful Book of Truth at our fingertips, and we have the Spirit of the Living God living inside us. It’s time to get serious about our sin, friends. It’s time to demolish those strongholds that trip us up and hold us back on our journey of faith.

Last week, Pastor Chuck brought up the stronghold “big three:” sexual sin, greed, and pride. I’ll be posting Scripture prayers on those three nasties in the coming weeks.

Today, Pastor Chuck brought up a powerful point about confronting our sin.

We’re a self-centered people. We’re more concerned with our victory over our sins than we are how our sins offend God.

The hard truth of that statement pierced me deep. Let it sink in for a minute, and I bet it’ll do the same to you.

Let me illustrate with a sin I have been battling for most of my life: gluttony.

My sin made me overweight, and, today, I have many weight-related issues (physical and emotional) that hold me back from being the person I want to be.

My sin affected my children. They watched me stuff my feelings with food and eat way more than I should. Today, two of my sons battle weight-related issues of their own. Yes, they make their own choices, but I, their momma, led them astray, and I am grieved to even think of it.

I’m sorry for my sin because of what it has done to me and for what it has done to my boys, but I don’t think I’ve ever really acknowledged what my sin does to God.

Sin is an offense to God.

God, the One who sent His only Son to die for my sins.

God, the One who loves me with an everlasting love.

God, the One who made me and dreamed up big plans for me.

My sin offends my God.

That should bother me most of all. That’s what I should avoid at all costs.

The Book of Psalms is full of prayers, many of which were written by King David, a flawed man, but a man after God’s own heart all the same.

Psalm 51 was penned shortly after David was confronted by the prophet Nathan about a series of sins David committed; adultery and murder, just to name a couple. You can go read the story in 2 Samuel 11-12.

Psalm 51 was David’s prayer of confession. I’m using the New Living Translation today.

Have mercy on me, O God,
    because of your unfailing love.
Because of your great compassion,
    blot out the stain of my sins.
Wash me clean from my guilt.
    Purify me from my sin.
For I recognize my rebellion;
    it haunts me day and night.
Against you, and you alone, have I sinned;
    I have done what is evil in your sight.
You will be proved right in what you say,
    and your judgment against me is just.
For I was born a sinner—
    yes, from the moment my mother conceived me.
But you desire honesty from the womb,
    teaching me wisdom even there.

Purify me from my sins, and I will be clean;
    wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.
Oh, give me back my joy again;
    you have broken me—
    now let me rejoice.
Don’t keep looking at my sins.
    Remove the stain of my guilt.
10 Create in me a clean heart, O God.
    Renew a loyal spirit within me.
11 Do not banish me from your presence,
    and don’t take your Holy Spirit from me.

12 Restore to me the joy of your salvation,
    and make me willing to obey you.
13 Then I will teach your ways to rebels,
    and they will return to you.
14 Forgive me for shedding blood, O God who saves;
    then I will joyfully sing of your forgiveness.
15 Unseal my lips, O Lord,
    that my mouth may praise you.

16 You do not desire a sacrifice, or I would offer one.
    You do not want a burnt offering.
17 The sacrifice you desire is a broken spirit.
    You will not reject a broken and repentant heart, O God.

Take a look at verse 4: “Against you, and you alone, have I sinned.”

Wait a minute. Didn’t David sin against Bathsheba, the woman he led into adultery? Didn’t David sin against her husband, Uriah, who he had assassinated? He surely offended those two people, but God is the one who labeled adultery and murder as sin. Our sins are against God and God alone even though they may hurt people.

Up until this point, I have wanted to change my gluttonous ways to improve my life and to be a better example to my boys. While noble, those reasons are not enough to bring about lasting change. I need a change of heart. I need to understand how my sin grieves my God!

It should break my heart to disappoint my Savior, but it doesn’t. I can fake it and convince you that my heart is broken over my sin, but God can’t be fooled. He knows I care more about how my sins affect me than I do how they affect Him.

The question is: what do I do about it?

Well, let’s see what David did.

  1. He confessed his sin to God. He also confessed to Nathan when he was confronted. Accountability with godly people is important but should not trump our confession to God Himself. Confession is seeing our sin the way God sees it. It’s agreeing with God that a wrong has been committed and a change is needed.
  2. He repented, or turned, from his sin. Repent is a military term that means to turn in the opposite direction and move away from that spot. David couldn’t undo his affair or the cover-up murder, but there’s nothing recorded in God’s Word that he ever repeated those sins.
  3. He accepted God’s forgiveness. Psalm 32 gives a joyful account of a heart set free from the guilt of sin. “I confessed all my sins to you and stopped trying to hide my guilt. I said to myself, ‘I will confess my rebellion to the Lord.’ And you forgave me! All my guilt is gone” (Psalm 32:5 NLT).

Our God is a God of grace. When we come to Him and admit our rebellion, He is quick to forgive and embrace us. I think of the prodigal son who squandered his life away and came slinking back to his father expecting, at best, the role of a servant in his father’s household. But his father was watching for him. When he saw his broken son trudging down that dirt road, he ran to extend mercy, grace, and love. Our God is waiting for us to come to Him. He longs to shower us with grace (See Luke 15:11-32).

And He wants to help us say no to the temptations that will surely come. “The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure” (1 Corinthians 10:13 NLT).

He will not allow us to be tempted beyond what we can stand. Did you see that? He promises to give us way of escape if we want it.

Here’s the thing. I don’t always want it. It’s so easy to call my sin a “slip up” or a “mess up,” and just vow to try harder tomorrow. My sin isn’t a little “faux pas.” It’s an offense to my God. It’s not something to shrug off. It’s something to grieve over. It’s something fight against.

I need God’s help to truly get that. I need God’s help to change my mindset on sin. How about you?


Break my heart over my sin. Take me beyond the worldly consequences of my bad choices. Help me see what my sin does to Your heart. “You do not desire a sacrifice, or I would offer one. You do not want a burnt offering. The sacrifice you desire is a broken spirit. You will not reject a broken and repentant heart, O God” (Psalm 51:16-17 NLT).

Break my spirit, Lord, so You can make it well and whole. 

In Jesus’s Name, the One who died for my sins I take so lightly, I pray, AMEN

Do you need God to break your spirit, too? Let’s pray for each other that we might see our sins through God’s eyes.